Relationships will naturally have ups and downs.
"This too shall pass" is an ancient proverb, and the expression is so true when it comes to relationships. No matter how great the relationship is in the beginning, it will eventually cool. Fortunately, the proverb applies to the other side of the fence as well. Once the magic dies down, it does not mean it is gone forever. Ruts happen in relationships, but this does not mean both parties have to sit and live in them. Through action and determination, this rut too shall pass.
Instructions
1. Holding hands as you stroll on an exotic beach is a perfect way to get out of a rut.
Go on vacation somewhere really cool. Travel has a way of bringing out the best in everyone. Go walk the Great Wall of China together, or snorkle the Great Barrier Reef in Australia. If this is too adventurous, then just take off for Vegas, Mexico, or Florida. The more entertaining the experience, the more of a bond will be forged, a bond which will give rise to memories you both will cherish forever.
2. Take some time away from each other. This is the opposite side of the spectrum from Step 1, but it can be equally effective. Go on separate trips and see friends apart from each other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say. When in a rut, it is important to do something different. Couples must break the routine; if too much time is spent together, maybe a short hiatus would be a good idea.
3. Surprise your loved one with an unexpected gift or flowers. It is not necessary to wait for birthdays or anniversaries to do a nice favor for the one you love. Ruts happen when relationships get stale, and the same behaviors are repeated to the point of boredom. A sudden change in routine is sometimes all it takes to break the ice.
4. Talk honestly with your partner. When you're in a rut, both of you will know it, but sometimes the effort to break out can seem more difficult than just going with the flow. Sitting down with your partner and simply saying "Hey, we need to fix this. What do you think?" is the beginning of a dialogue that can snap the two of you out of your boring routine and headed toward better times.
